And Life Goes On

The random bloggings on what gets my goat!

Thorpe Bay

My Mental Health

The last few years have been rather challenging in one way or another. More of that in another post. Soon.

So, I have started to walk every morning for 5k or so and wow can I notice a difference in my well being.

Some days I really don’t want to leave, but I drag myself out screaming and crying at times as. I know that I will thank myself later. And boy, do I?

The endorphins flowing, the wind in my hair, the sun on my face are so worth it. This walk sets me up for the day like nothing else, I know that now and I sometimes go out 2 or 3 times for a walk when the shit gets a bit too real for my head to cope with in the day.

What do you do to clear your head?

Hope you have a good week, I know I will due to my new determination and my new lease for life having got rid of the bad and only having room for the good, my mental health needs this, I’m just sorry it took me so long to realise this ‚̧ԳŹ

Desiderata Original Text

I love this poem. Thought I would share. Enjoy it, I know I do whenever I read it ūüíú

I’m back

Hi all,

I have decided to try and get this blog back up and running.

I know its been a while but I have had a lot going on in the last few years, life simply got in the way.

I will be using this blog to talk through my life as it now stands.

Since we last ‘spoke’ I have separated from my husband, had a hysterectomy, currently going through surgical menopause which has been a bit of an arse ache. But of such things I will not speak now, this is all to come. Yippee!

Have a fab day people, I am off to do some reading as I have just started a Counselling course and I need to get on top of it.

Hayley xx

Back to Reality

I have just returned from a week away in Tenerife. It was bliss being able to lie in the sun all day, reading and writing at my leisure with the kids playing happily in the pool.

However, although I love being away, I also miss the simple things that we take for granted whilst at home such as being able to make a cup of tea when I wanted or being able to have a plain and simple piece of toast, also a glorious hot bubble bath. 

I know it sounds silly but boy, did I relish these things when I got home. Is there anything that you really miss whilst away?

Dear Snow……

So yet again the snow has arrived and the UK grinds to a halt. 

What is it with us that we can never just carry on.

The trains are delayed.

Schools are shut.

Airports closed down, yesterday some were closed just in case it snowed!

Come on Britain get with it, other countries seem to cope pretty well why can’t you?

Yours a Mother who will no doubt have her kids with her this week due to ice!

Stoptober- Day 23

My eldest daughter who is 9 has been asking me to give up smoking now for some time, ever since she was taught in her science lesson that cigarettes were bad for you and was able to read the public information notices that now accompany a rather horrid picture on the front of a packet of cigarettes.

I have not really enjoyed cigarettes for some time now as I don’t¬†smoke¬†at home due to the children and the smoking ban put paid to anyone smoking in a public place such as a¬†restaurant or a pub. So the idea of a leisurely cigarette for me had long been a thing of the past.

The children and I decided that I would sign up for Stoptober which is a 28 day challenge  to stop smoking. The blurb tells you that there is lots of free support along the way and that after 28 days of not smoking, you are more than 5 times more likely  to stay smoke free.

I received my pack which comes with a stress ball, a day by day mantra to help you on your way with topics such as how to focus on beating the cravings, coping with withdrawal symptoms  and keeping your guard up, all very helpful.

I signed up with my local chemist to get my patches and agree to a carbon monoxide test which involves blowing into a gadget which then tells you how much carbon monoxide is in your lungs. I started at 14 and have since been on 0 each time since. Proud, that doesn’t even cut it!

I am also using an electronic cigarette, there are many on the market, mine is from and it is really helping when I have a craving for a cigarette along with the patches, I can vape away on my e-cig and the cravings pass in no time.

So, so far so good, lets see if this can last. My helpful mantra on¬†today’s¬†date tells me to keep looking forward as in another five days I will have conquered Stoptober!

Oh yes, I will have done.

Smoke free and loving it, come on!


Skinny Jeans Nearly Killed Me!

It was my daughter’s birthday at the weekend and she had a party at home with loads of her friends over.

When all her friends had left for the evening and both the girls were in bed, my sister, a friend and I decided to open a bottle of wine. Now this was great, we had a fab night discussing old stories of us in our youth, laughing, giggling and more drinking.

After a couple of bottles we decided to head up to bed, now I am not a big wine drinker, I knew that I had had a drink, but I was no way drunk, tipsy maybe.

I creeped into my bedroom trying not to wake the girls as I changed into my PJ’s. All was going really well until I tried to take my jeans off.

I had on a pair of grey skinny jeans that were rather too skinny around the leg but I soldiered on, and on, and on. They would not come off. I realise now that I began to panic after five minutes or so of trying really hard to get them off.

Please bear in mind that whilst trying to get them off I was hopping around the bedroom, by this time swearing like a navvy!

I¬†thought¬†to myself “Come on now, this is silly, one last pull and they will be off”, so I pulled and ended flat on my back with the leg still inside the jean leg, I called out to my sister to come and help me rid myself of the jean leg and sheepishly went to bed, half an hour after entering my bedroom.

Eat Up

I don’t know what dinner time is like in your house in mine it is a nightmare!

I don’t look¬†forward to it at all.

Why? Because it is a daily battle. Now don’t get me wrong my girls are good eaters they eat most things and they eat their vegetables so this is not an issue.

My bug is the amount of time it takes for them to eat.

They can be eating a small dinner for over an hour I therefore spend said hour shouting at them to get a move on.

Cue tears whining and snot!

So I have now told them I will no longer be shouting at them for my own sanity. If they take two hours to eat their dinner so be it as I will have left the table and be able to get on with the rest of my day. The girls however will sit at the table now with no shouting at them to get a move on. I have told them the only people that it is affecting is them and if they are happy to sit the dinner table for two hours then so be it!

Self Publishing – To Buy or Not?

Does it really matter as to whether a book is self published or has gone down the more traditional route?

Do you the reader not read a book due to the fact that the writer has themselves self published?

“I think readers are more focused on a good story that they can enjoy instead of where the book was published,” said Mathewson, of the self-published authors’ success. “Thanks to the internet they can research books before committing time and money on them. Flashy advertisements really don’t mean anything to most avid readers. They care more about reviews, ratings and recommendations than they do about ads telling them what to read.”

As Mark Coker said, “It’s a big deal to see a single Smashwords author on the New York Times Bestseller list, let alone four in one week.¬† A year ago, it was unheard of.¬† A year from now, it’ll be more commonplace.¬† Tomorrow’s global bestsellers are at Smashwords.¬† Maybe the next bestseller will be the title uploaded to Smashwords two minutes from now, soon to be visible at the top of the Smashwords home page.¬† Or maybe it’ll be one or more of the nearly 9,000 new titles uploaded to Smashwords in the last 30 days.¬† Or uploaded three years ago….maybe tomorrow’s bestseller is languishing on an undiscovered writer’s computer, still waiting for a publisher to give it a chance.¬† Maybe that writer will now realize they don’t need the blessing of a publisher to become a published author, or to reach readers.¬† Maybe they’ll realize that that the¬†tools to publish¬†and¬†distribute¬†a book are available at no cost, and the¬†knowledge to professionally publish¬†is available for the taking. It just takes effort.”

Twitter for me has really opened up my reading world as I now buy e-books from authors that I follow, whether they be self-published or not.

For me it is about the story, does the blurb grip me if so, I buy with not a thought as to how it has been published. It does annoy me however when there are lots of spelling mistakes or other glaring errors which is just sloppy and should not happen under any circumstances.

So go on, the traditional route is becoming harder and harder to break into so give the self published writer a chance, you will be pleasantly surprised.

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